Monday, November 07, 2005

What do you do when you have a ridiculous client who makes your life miserable?

I know I'm supposed to focus on the positive, on solutions, and make changes to improve things and not let the small stuff bother me.

Right. I've read all the self-help books our society is be addicted to.

So, how do you make all that happen beyond just knowing it to be the correct course of action?

I know I'm supposed to be somehow be perfect at all times, but seriously, the next person who says "talk is cheap" is getting a sharp object in an uncomfortable orifice. Unless they actually have walked in my shoes and know that I'm not doing everything I can to try to make things better.

Hey, guess what? You're right, I'm a failure because I can't seem to change my life at this particular moment. You're right, I can't seem to prevent a project from hell from taking over my every waking moment. You're right, I can't choose a new path because I can't give up on the dreams to which this path was supposed to lead me. And you're right: I did choose this path so now I have to deal with it. I'm dealing with it, but that doesn't mean I have to like it.

I'm sure you're shocked to find out that I'm not perfect afterall. Don't worry, maybe it's a temporary chemical imbalance.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

this is quite an over-reaction. i didn't read anyone saying you had to be perfect or calling you a failure. if you would prefer this to be a 1-way monologue, you should shut down comments. otherwise, you should expect and learn to handle responses you might not like.

Cathy said...

I don't think I'm having a problem handling the response. If I did, I would simply delete it.

I just don't happen to LIKE it.

It's very easy to say "do this, dummy."

I'm saying that it's NOT as easy as that. Yes, I would like to just change things. And I'm working on it, but it takes time. And in the meantime, I'm not altogether happy about some things that happen.

So I'm gonna feel down about it sometimes. Sometimes I'm gonna get really angry and hate everything.

And you might post unhelpful "talk is cheap" comments sometimes.

I'm dealing with it.

Cathy said...

o·ver·re·act : To react with unnecessary or inappropriate force, emotional display, or violence.

You might think it's unnecessary. But it really bugged me. So I felt it necessary. It was how I felt at the end of an extraordinarily long day.

Don't get me wrong: I'm totally aware that you probably didn't expect that. But you also shouldn't leave a comment on an emotional day and expect it NOT to affect me.

Girls = emotional