Thursday, October 05, 2006

Is having a relationship a little like having a child?

I mean, you have to teach them discipline - how to treat you.
You have to be consistent.
You have to punish when they do something wrong or they won't know not to do it again.
You have to lay out your expectations - give them a schedule of chores or whatever.

I'm wondering if perhaps I am fighting in vain against this concept. I have been hanging on to the ideal that it is a completely equal partnership in which both members understand what is needed and just DO IT.

But what if one of you does not know what is needed?

Doesn't it fall to the other to help them see and understand and even to train them to supply it without asking?

Perhaps I give too much credit and expected too much.

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